GenQ - For the not so straight individual

"Research suggests that the homosexual orientation is in place very early in the life cycle, possibly even before birth. It is found in about ten percent of the population, a figure which is surprisingly constant across cultures, irrespective of the different moral values and standards of a particular culture.

The question of whether someone was "really" straight or "really" gay fails to recognize the nature of sexuality, which is fluid, not fixed, a narrative that changes over time. . . . It reveals sexuality to be a process of growth, transformation, and surprise, not a stable and knowable state of being."

Is it or isn't it? Does it matter? Many heterosexual people believe that homosexuals choose to be gay. They believe all gay people made a conscious decision, whether out of sexual pleasure or a desire to be different. Is sexuality something you can take off and put on like a hat? Not to ride the fence here, but'yes, and no. Some people DO choose their sexuality. We live in a time where it's cool to be ?different?. Everyone wants to stand out, to have some quality that makes them a little different from everyone else. (The downside of this is that everyone's trying so hard to be different, that they all end up the same!) People ?coming out? as bisexual in high school is not uncommon. I can't speak for other people, but I strongly suspect that some students do this for the ?shock factor?. They know this is going to upset their parents, and they'll be a topic of conversation for weeks. Does this negate the struggle of those that are gay or bisexual? These individuals live in fear of their friends and family finding out, and possibly disowning them.

Hypothetically:
If in high school - I were to divide gay students into two groups: the ?truly gays? and the ?newly gays?, we would have about 20 ?newly gay? students'teenagers that announced to everyone, and anyone that was listening, that they were now bisexual. They would usually follow this with acquiring a new partner of the same sex'preferably another ?newly gay? ?and making sure that everyone knew they were now in a homosexual relationship. One of my ?newly gay? friends would confide in me that he didn't really like his new boyfriend ?that way?, but it was fun having a boyfriend.

http://www.queerbychoice.com/ is a website devoted to ?those of us who consider ourselves "queer by choice"?true radicals?. They reject the theory that sexuality is something that's written into your DNA. At first glance, I thought, ?They're mocking homosexuality! What about people that have always been gay, who struggle with their same-sex attractions?? But this site is all about throwing away the labels, acknowledging that sexuality is fluid and forever changing. What you like today may not be what you like tomorrow, or 10 years from now.

Dr. Alfred Kinsey created The Kinsey Scale to judge sexual attraction, and to answer the question??are we 100% straight or 100% gay?? He came to the conclusion that ?a seven-point scale comes nearer to showing the many gradations that actually exist?

0- Exclusively heterosexual with no homosexual
1-Predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual
2- Predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual
3- Equally heterosexual and homosexual
4- Predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual
5- Predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual
6- Exclusively homosexual

I don't want to throw away any of that research that helped show people that, hey, we're not ?playing gay? just to upset you. We were born this way. Just remember that there's always several ways of looking at things. What if some of those ?newly gays? actually went on to have successful homosexual relationships? What started as a choice could end up as a real and lasting love. Some people know if they're straight or gay from the moment they recognize sexual attraction. Some people actively make a decision to broaden their horizons. I don't think that they're belittling homosexuality'they're opening their minds. I stand by my theory that no matter how heterosexual or homosexual you are, there is always someone of either sex that you could fall in love with, or be attracted to. Maybe you'll never meet them, maybe you overlooked them because they weren't what you usually go for biologically, but they are there.