GenQ - For the not so straight individual

In order to move on, one must leave the harmful things of the past in the past, and prepare themselves for a leap into the unknown. One must allow themselves to feel the full array of emotions which alleviate and afflict the human existence to truly live.

One must open themselves up to the possibility of something new, and not be weighed down by the past in their decision to do so. One must love with an open and unjaded heart to experience true love.

For almost two years I’d been hung up over a past relationship which I was almost certain was going to get back together, but didn’t despite the flirting and the enduring friendship. Recently I met someone new, someone I really like, and it has forced me to confront my past and put my feelings in perspective. One must go forward not backward, and I believe that if it didn’t work the first time, it wasn’t meant to be and if there were any chance of that relationship getting back together, it would have happened already. I shed no tears for the past and look only to the future.

Remember, clichés aside, the best things really do happen to you when you least expect them to, and for me, they couldn’t have come at a better time. What with a new job and the possibility of a new relationship, I’m not feeling all that bad about myself, the world and how I fit into the big picture.

A friend once told me that if you thought you had been in love and you are no longer with that person then it wasn’t really love, while I understand where he is coming from, I must digress, it really has no bearing on the feelings felt at the time, as to the present situation. In your life I believe you love many people in many different ways, this includes love of family, friends and ultimately significant others. In my short life I have loved people I never had a chance with and some who I didn’t know I would have a chance with, so I guess it takes all sorts.

There comes a time, long after a significant relationship ends, when you must rid yourself of your burdens in order to move on completely. You may believe there is only one person for you, and while that may be true, consider for a moment if you were ever to lose that person and never have the chance to be with them again. Would you really want to close your heart and allow no one else in because you are hung up over someone you once had but can never have again? I wouldn’t, and I refuse to think that past feelings are a quick fix for everything (although I have done in the past).

Live and love compassionately, detach yourself from the idea of ‘I cannot live without you’ because chances are you will live without them, you would just prefer not to. Ultimately, ensure that you give your all at all times, love is a precious thing; don’t waste it on the wrong people. Don’t settle for anything less than the best, and always respect yourself.

Sometimes you just know when you’ve met one, sometimes you know before you’ve even met them in person. I met someone through the internet, they randomly contacted me, and what grew from that has become something very special. I was never one for internet dating, but I must admit it has some credit to it.

Adelaide’s scene is so small, by small I mean; there are so many couples and so few singles. If you aren’t into the scene, the ones you want to meet aren’t there. So I do believe that the internet is effective medium for finding love. While not everyone may find what they are looking for, I just consider myself lucky that I found ‘the one’ when I did.

In conclusion, life throws us many challenges in our journey, mostly concerning the matters of the heart; the main thing you need to do is make sure you get the most of out life as you can. Live life to the fullest, and move on at every opportunity, you never know when true love will hit, but when it does, you will just know.

Picture courtesy of Vicki Ferguson.