GenQ - For the not so straight individual

Some say they feel comfortable only being intimate with their partner - I agree whole-heartedly with this. Some have issues with kissing another if they are not with them in case it leads to something more, the same could be said with assumptions which are made about people who hold hands and the nature of their relationship.

What I really have an issue with is sex - I am not scared of it, I just feel more comfortable doing it with my partner and not just anyone, don't get me wrong I have had one-nighters like the rest of us, but sex is something that shouldn't just be that - it needs to mean more - making love, not just a quick fuck for mutual satisfaction of the syndrome known as 'horny' or alone.

It may seem odd that I, of all people am writing about 'getting some' as my sex life has been pretty dismal since my girlfriend broke up with me. It is not until then that I made the realization that as much as random sex appeals when you are desperate or 'gagging for it' there is no substitute for the love and affection of a partner who's only pleasuring you and no-one else.

This brings me to my next point - porn - what is the sense in it? - I know there are a million perverts on this earth who get off over 'set-up sex' but whatever happened to 'marital aide' videos designed to instruct and inspire your love-making and providing tips on how to 'spice thing up in the bedroom'? It has been blown way out of proportion.

I have seen many amateur sex tapes available for free download off the world wide web but after a while and having watched them a few times they get boring - much like masturbation grows tiring and monotonous when you rather just be with someone else who you can pleasure and they you. Just like you come to know your own body and its pleasure spots, sex tapes also grow tiring - you know it's just sex, over and over again - sorry, but I am not one to get off over repetition.

I mean, whatever happened to the 'my body is a temple' - worship and respect virtue? Your body is special and for the most part, a private thing that should only be shared with another who cares for you enough to respect that. Personally, I would respect someone more for wearing hot, stylish clothes, rather than nothing at all.

When I told my parents I was a lesbian, my father told me he didn't mind what I did as long as I respected myself ? I guess that should be the underlying pretense amongst everything we do.