GenQ - For the not so straight individual

This weekends relationship dilemma comes from my friend Mel. It is actually a very common dilemma amongst single gay men: I like it to call it a Catch-69 (a twist on a Catch-22).

Mel's story is a common one that all of us can relate to'Once upon a time a young boy met another young boi online?. They had a lot in common, both very interested in sports and training. Mel was new to the whole gay scene. He was not into casual sex and was looking for a relationship.

The guy he met, Tim, offered to help him train and meet up to discuss sports. As they kept getting to know each other, Mel realized that Tim was actually more interested in sexual training then talking or actually training for that matter. Tim was hot, muscular ...a gay fairy tale prince charming. Mel started to like this guy'he was falling for him.

But like every fairy tale'there were bad characters'and Mel had been burned by the Melbourne gay dating scene. The past few guys he had met he had always had sex with them in the first date. Then he never saw these guys again. So he liked Tim but his dilemma was whether he should sleep with him in the first date and risk not seeing with him again or not sleep with him on the first date and risk not seeing again for not sleeping him. Mel was caught in a classic Catch-69. Dammed if you do, but dammed if you don't.

Can there be a happy ending to his story? Or is it a cycle of not so fairy tales? Do we ever get our prince charming? When we were young, they lived happily ever after. The prince charming would wake the sleeping beauty. Now, there is no prince charming and no one is waking up from their crystal meth induced commas!

This story is told over and over by gay guys in Sydney. Why is it that we meet someone once and never see them again? Why do we run away from a potential relationship? Maybe it is because we have seen or read too many fairy tales. Happy endings and living happily ever after takes lots of time, patience, therapy and work!