GenQ - For the not so straight individual

There comes a time in the lives of most bi-sexuals where they wish to settle down and find a life long partner. Yet many worry about which way they will go, same sex or other sex. This is especially hard for those out there that are still in the closet about their liking for same sex relations.

Right or wrong, going for the opposite sex is often the choice as it presents less issues with family and friends and quite often becomes the ?option of convenience?. It also presents the opportunity for starting a family.

But what happens if your partner does not like the idea of same sex relations? Do you tell them of your past or do you keep it in the past? What happens if from time to time you still desire the closeness of a member of the same sex?

There are many things to consider when looking to make a commitment to a person. Is the decision what YOU want? At the end of the day there is little point in being with someone for the sake of ease. If you are not happy with the relationship then no amount of effort will ever make you happy. This theory also holds true for life in general. If you are not happy with a job then it will always feel like you are being dragged down into a pit with no chance of escape.

Family, friends and society as a whole can often influence making the decision on your choice of partner. If you feel strongly one way or the other then you need to decide if the good outweighs the bad. Are the feelings you have for someone strong enough to fight for? Are you prepared to stand against all that is thrown against you in the name of your own happiness and well being?

The word ?love? can be thrown around as nothing more than a catch phrase and is often used to describe a lot more than it was ever intended to. If you truly love a person, whether they are same sex or not and you don't at least try, forever will it haunt you with guilt and regret.