GenQ - For the not so straight individual

They say that timing is everything. For single boys and girls, timing really is everything. Timing can determine whether there will be a second date. There is the timing about when to first have sex. If you do it too soon, it may turn out to be just a shag buddy. You do wait too long and it may just turn into friendship. There are time rules. You should call back three days after the first date. There are number of times you can see him or her in one week before you turn into a stalker.

I'm considering my own timing. Last Sunday, I had a perfect first date. His name is David. He is 31, from the country, an architect who lives in the inner west. We decided to see the impressionist exhibit at the NSW Art Gallery. This was actually his choice. It was good timing as the exhibition had just started. The art gallery provided the great balance for a first date. You could talk yet there was enough time to be quiet and take in all of the art. We then had coffee and had a great chat. I learned a lot about him but I probably talked way too much. I normally do this when I am nervous or when I write'can you tell! We ended the perfect first date with ?let's catch up soon.? After the date, I met the gang for an analysis of the evening.

I really wanted to sms him right away and tell him what a great guy he was and how much I liked him and how I wanted to see him Wednesday. But that would have been bad timing, I was told by my friends. There was the three day rule. I would have to wait till at least Wednesday to contact him. I could not seem to ?keen? or it may scare him away. I went home but I couldn't get this David out of my head. So I messaged him. I said I had a great time and hoped to see him soon.

It is Tuesday and he has not responded. Did I break the three day timing rule? Does he think I could be a potential stalker? Did the ?catch up soon? send off really mean that we should let fate intervene? Should I just move on and get over it? Or maybe just wait a few more days?

If I do ever get a second date, the timing dilemma shifts to when you should have sex.
Should I do it on the first date and use it as a test drive. Or should I wait until there is an emotional connection and make it special. There are arguments for both views of this national debate. Some people have rules. My friend Todd will always wait until at least the third date to shag a potential date, unless they are of Lebanese background and live in the outer west. You cannot make someone take a 45 minute ride and not give them a little something..something. Sam, on the other hand, reckons you need to know how sexually compatible you are from the beginning. He reckons that if the sex is not good, the relationship won't be good either. I subscribe to the theory that you should have sex when it feels right. Sometimes that feeling comes more quickly, depending on the number of drinks. But we all have our inner sexual timers.

Maybe it is time to move on? Share your stories with the Single Guy at sydney102@hotmail.com