GenQ - For the not so straight individual

What is it in life that makes one person develop feelings for and eventually fall in love with another person?

It's something about the way they look, but it's not as obvious as beauty. It's something about the way they make you feel, but it's more subtle than charm or personality. So what is it?

Maybe it's the pheromones in our body, you know those uncontrollable in our brain that tends to rule everything from our feelings to our memories.

 

 

I recently read in an article that researchers have found that it could actually be the subconscious mind we use to select our 'perfect match'.

 

Is it true that many people only look at what's inside another person, such as honesty, trust, faithfulness etc but deep down I think we all still base some things on looks and sex appeal too.

Other people tend to look for others that are similar in looks than themselves, hence the term mirror-image. Some relationship studies reveal that people are subconsciously attracted to their mirror image, with researchers noting some spooky similarities in couples' appearances from the size of their ears lobes, to the length of their middle fingers, and even the capacity of their lungs.

 

 

Many people in the past have said to me that the first thing that attracts a potential partner to them is their face. Is this because it's the first thing they tend to look at?

Researchers are now convinced that your birth order plays a part in how attractive a prospective mate will find you. And while your position in the family is hard to ascertain at first sight, subtle characteristics you may display to your date send secrets messages to them informing them of your birth order.

Studies have revealed that eldest and only children are often attracted to one another because of their drive for success and desire to take care of others. Youngest children, with their easy-going natures are often attracted to the adventurous spirit of middle children.

 

Other people tend to look at the way a person treats other people.....How they care about others, how they treat others and if they are kind, gentle etc or are they rough and non-caring.

 

Then there are others who prefer to go for those who are of the committal type...who only want a monogamous relationship. Whereas others are only after one night stands.

 

Obviously every one has their own way of choosing their own partner but this was just some food for thought about how our mind reacts when viewing other people as potential partners. If you, the reader, have any comments or questions feel free to write in to us.